To be or not to be?

Do we all have the capability to become ‘Bridezillas’?

By Penelope Goldstream

Is it a woman’s genetic makeup that she will inevitably become unbearable whilst planning ‘her’ wedding?  I say ‘her’ loosely because there are two important people involved in a wedding.  It appears the first statement could possibly be true.  Speak to any B2B and she will categorically state that she will enjoy planning her wedding and will try her upmost not get stressed, regardless of the obstacles and issues faced.  To some extent and through personal experience I have to agree with this statement.

I got engaged in late 2008 and I, like many other B2B, got excited about the planning stages of the wedding.  I bought 4 bridal magazines within 12 hours of being engaged and within 24 hours I had chosen my colour scheme, although I have since changed my mind 7 times!  Eight months later and I feel slightly different about the whole wedding planning.  I’m not saying that I’m not enjoying being engaged but I do feel like I’m in limbo at the moment.

Firstly, let me explain my reasons for this feeling.  Me and my H2B decided to have a 2 year engagement which means we’re not due to get married until December 2010.  Don’t get me wrong, this is a good timescale for me and my H2B as it gives us the time to properly plan what we want, but most importantly, it gives us the time to save money.

The issue I’m faced with, if you can call it an issue, is this; we’ve already found and booked our venue and reception (fortunately for us it’s the same place!), I’ve already found my ‘perfect’ wedding dress, I’ve already devised my guest list and I know the song list off the back of my hand.  I know what centrepieces I want, I know what cake I’m having and I’ve already picked my favours.  My problem is I’ve nothing else that I can do at the moment.  It feels too early to book some things at the moment because the wedding is still 18 months away and I’m getting stressed because I feel like I can’t do anything – how bizarre is this?

I’m confused that I’m stressed because I’m too organised!  I didn’t think this was possible and now I’m concerned that I’m capable of becoming a full blown, out of my mind, crazy…Bridezilla.  This is one word that I hadn’t contemplated appearing whilst planning my wedding.  Can you imagine what I will be like if the cake isn’t white enough or the flowers are the wrong shade or red!  All I can say is watch out Mr Groom because I have the potential to be horrible! Is this something I’m going through alone or does every B2B suffer with this predicament?  I guess only time will tell.