Looking without Looking?

Penelope Goldstream has been writing regular features for idaventry.com describing her search for the “perfect wedding”. Join her here on a suprising discovery in the least expected venue. Despite the occasion marriage is clearly never far from her mind.

Finding the ideal in the most unexpected location?

We all strive to achieve that ‘movie moment’ at least once in our lifetime; you know the one I mean.  That moment where we hope to find something amazing without having to put any effort in.  I use the term ‘something’ quite loosely as more often than not, we don’t actually know what that amazing thing we are looking for is; but we do know that we want something amazing to happen!

I’ve been looking for our wedding singer/band for months now, trawling website after website and ordering CD after CD but to no avail.  After a last minute holiday to the must-visit-Island-to-those-under-30-AKA-Ibiza, I somehow stumbled (being the operative word) into a small Irish Bar and found exactly what I was looking for.

Standing in front of me was a dark haired, casually dressed, 20 something strumming away on a guitar.  Admittedly he wasn’t really being appreciated by the drunken mobs but he was holding his own and managed to keep the crowds entertained; in my opinion he is the perfect singer to handle a rowdy wedding mob.

I was in awe with his raw talent and willingness to please the crowd that I knew I had to ask him to sing for me (ahem, us) at my (our!) wedding.  I waiting patiently for the scantily clad and slightly drunken girls to prise themselves away from him before making my move.  After a brief conversation, I left with his details, much to the envy of others but for different reasons.  I bounced back to my seat feeling ever so slightly smug that I’d found the perfect wedding singer.  Who said that we had to find what we want in wedding magazine or websites only?  If I had stuck to this method then I certainly wouldn’t have found my singer, especially as he doesn’t specialise in weddings.

So, here I am now, returning from my holiday and writing my memoirs whilst sitting in a very uncomfortable plane seat with the most annoying passenger who deems singing aloud (and very badly that even the XFactor rejects would complain) is appropriate behaviour during a flight (If I wasn’t so happy I’d be facing 10 years right now).  Pondering the question ‘Can we find what we are looking for without looking for it?’